I could tell she didn't want to leave him. He had been having his cake and eating it vigorously for far too long. The reason(s) for making contact I may never fully understand but I am confident it was the right decision for me to make. My wife is lying to me. As a person of faith I dug deep and clung tightly to my identity in Christ. Yes I know she would lie to me if it helped her cause - I cant trust her - and phoning her is the only way I know to find out if the affair is over, but I cant as if it is over it would start it up again, and if it isnt I know the truth will find me in Gods perfect time. No consequences to her actions equals no motivation to change. There can be any number of reasons, but I do suggest you try to get your mind off the affair partner and onto your own recovery - that is much more productive. I believe my healing restarted every other day. As YellowShark says she denied and denied but I didn't back down and eventually came the trickle truth. She had been deceiving me for 2 years whilst having an affair with my husband, manipulating situations, even sending anon letters to give me hints he is over the side in the hope I will kick him out do they can be together without me ever realisingwhy all of the sudden she would be telling me the truth. This seems cut throat, but will help you if a custody battle comes up. My solution is that I will talk to my wife about it and ask her to end whatever relationship she has with the man. Dump her, go NC and live life and work on being a stronger person. Hi Jeff. However, there IS good news for each confronting a cheater reaction. Rick's comment that people affair down, not up, is very interesting & my guess is that he's right. If the roles were reversed do you honestly think your wife would be so accepting as you have been? Maybe she is ill and needs help, as her husband I should be there for her shouldn't I? He is so right and thank you for helping me to accept that. My wife claimed she had told him this already. Copyright PUNCH. Incontrovertible proof. That's where all of us recovering from adultery need to focus. It's been so bad that our daughters don't really even care to see or speak to their grandfather before he dies. I was done with the lying, the secrecy, and my lover's cowardice. Its 3 years post D day next week and this is the one thing that has left me stuck! I have no idea whether they are still in touch. Damn this is hard, I'm glad you are all here. She was just trying to "rescue him." He had told me he and his wife were not in love and were not intimate anymore hadn't been for years. It's an exercise in futility. Ive accepted things and Ive moved on completely. Maybe you agonized about doing this. I never responded to her message..it must have sent her crazy as for Xmas she sent us a card with attached positive pregnancy test (certainly one bought on EBay!) This is the first time in my life that Ive lived alone, and its a little exhilarating. I found this a little bizarre, because she didnt seem all that earnest or enthusiastic about it. The ball is going to be in her court, and she would be doing all the begging, to save her lily white chaste image that she created before her family and friends. You haven't even been M that long! Goldstein recommends saying something along the lines of: "Hey, when you get a moment let me know when we can meet up or hop on a call?" And then she sent another message that she would be happy to meet to set the record straight. I was done with him, what had I to say to her not my problem, not my problem, not my It was true, I DID have to have them. To compare notes. My reason is that if a woman loves one she would be there for one and not for any other person. My ex suddenly wanted a divorce and it turned out it was so she could run off with a married mutual friend that I actually was asking for advice on what was wrong with her. Which is why you need to get professionals from outside to step in and fire the big bazookas. Blessings to all the betrayed out there. We've turned a page. With the hubby she is the regular loving housewife. October 23rd (when the final email conversation took place with my husbands ap) was one of the MOST difficult days of my life. I messaged them and asked if they wouldn't mind speaking to me. If he sees a dress he likes and he cannot buy it for me but get it for another lady, then there is a problem and we have to solve it. You might find out what would shock you: Before you agree to meet with the other man/woman you must analyze the possibilities of what you might be told and how it might As you already admitted, given the situation find yourself in, your self confidence is broken, you can not think straight, and your mind is just going crazy trying to make sense of it all. It is an opportunity. Patience is a virtue, especially under the most trying circumstances. So atleast you have that going for you. The timeline had changed from a couple of years to 3 or 4 years and a couple of months ago , putting 2 and 2 together, she admitted that the affair went on for almost 20 years and that she never initiated any part of it but never could tell him NO when he would call her and set up a meeting. In a way, I was happy.it opened my husbands eyes to whom she really is, and it was my opportunity to show to him that Im the better, proud, string and wise woman. But that, in of itself is helpful. I wished her no ill will, I just needed her to confirm that it is as in fact over. To outsmart her and pretend, while your team gets on her case. If he has a lover aside from me, it is his cup of tea. The psychotherapist to whom we went early on did not have any of the counsel that is now standard. Ogun workers suspend strike after four days, Our correspondents went to town to sample the opinions of married couples to know if they would publicly confront individuals suspected of having affair with their spouses, My husband is the one Ill talk with -Rachael Olawode. Maybe you did this. There is no need for me to confront my spouses lover in public. The problem is between my man and me. You will never be able to trust her, you'll be constantly checking up on her, whenever you are apart you will be torturing yourself with what she may be doing what kind of marriage is that??? I have waited a year and have given it a lot of thought. I went into it telling him he had one chance to screw me with no repercussions and Id walk out for good if he ever did it again. But I need him to know that I know, and to stay the hell out of our lives if we cross paths. I'm not sorry I did, but it probably wasn't the smartest thing I've ever done. No kids? She asked me questions. Back to my story: I contacted the AP in order to gain insight. When it ces to the divorce, this is between you and her. Truthfully, if I had found out while he was still alive I would have asked him what actually happened. I don't even know if I got the full story but I got enough. Keep your emotions under complete control. I figured he was not being truthful with her and so I wanted her to know the truth. Your Quite a few members of the forum (including myself) replied thoughtfully to your thread there but you didnt return to it. Our experts designed this step-by-step guide to help you survive infidelity. I'm hoping to be able to see the AP one day with no reaction. Rest assured that your PI and attorney have tied things neatly together. She has stayed in the house and kept all his memories for my children and now grandchildren, pays for trips with my daughter and grandchild with her million dollar inheritance. It was easy for her to manipulate his schedule in order for them to spend time together. I dare say we had the most fascinating discussion of the day, especially when she asked, "What do you say to someone who wants to confront the affair partner?". Confronting her would only worsen the matter- Eunice Egwu. When the PI is done with his job, he will have a watertight folder of documentary evidence that nails her infedility. I expect no apologies, no truth, no remorse. I think we have to clear the air. All that matters is taking care of yourself and your son. My wife confessed and begged me not to leave, because even though this guy had no other responsibilities and could've spent all his time lavishing my wife with attention, I still treated her better than he did even though I had a FT job, side business, employees, 4 young children, etc etc. She said it's over, but I know it's not. jesus My friend you are in big time denial. Every situation is unique, would I recommend it? Just remove yourself from the equation. Being in an affair has been likened to addiction, and in confronting the affair partner, you're trying to sober them up. What you will be going through is denial, bargaining, depression, anxiety, resentment, anger, etc. Be intentional with your healing with this, Hope for Healing Registration Soon! I think it is amazing what you decided to do. Confronting your lover's lover. It was helpful to me that I went into the marriage all those years ago with the attitude that I would not unnecessarily squander our marriage if he failed to live up to the commitment. Very ugly. Confronting my wife - need advice. Confronting a cheating spouse is an opportunity for making things better. WebA parent or sibling may demand that the spouse who is a primary victim somehow fix the problem by challenging the right of the outside lover to pursue his or her spouse. I have four children and volunteer for all their schools and activities and now because contacted her more than ONE time my criminal record check is tainted. If you really think she will change then I have huge admiration for you, but it'll be a rough journey and you need to be able to be open with each other. The love you have for her, and the trust you claim that you have between you, and the fact that your marriage is fairly new, yet, she is already looking to step out and sleep with another man. Ignoring this is not an option, it will only eat away at me. Doing that wouldnt make a difference Eseiegbe Efe. As a result we dont talk, perhaps this is for the better.why do I need two faced people around me and my children. Expose the affair to the OM's wife or girlfriend 4. It didnt seem to bother her that he was lying to her - she just said what fun he must be having sleeping with us both. Before using the site, please read our Privacy Policy and Terms of Use. Yeah, there's some irony in that, huh? His annoyance crossed the threshold when he saw the man responsible for everything on one of the channels. He didnt but I keep a close eye on him. Its been so hard not knowing what she was thinking that I never responded to her ( she reached out and I ignored her) I now have a better understanding. He was visibly shaking during the encounter and when he cried to my wife she then saw him as pathetic. Butbe prepared for her to deny and deny and deny until confronted with that proof. Letting the cheater have the affair partner. She hasn't. I would highly recommend giving this a try. The other woman is also married. Shes in LOVE with him. I have a reputation I would not want to tarnish. altogether. TBH I don't know what my game plan is. Does that make any difference? The thing is, you WILL get through this. WebTheres no point in confronting those lovers. Then, I will confront her openly. Expose the affair to her family. What if you should meet up with her by chance? My only advice is get out NOW. Do NOT confront your sweet wife with anything. Your not a wimp for being cheated on or for being in shock at this discovery. For others, it may be a need to face their fears. Truth About Deception back to our home page. My head was kind of spinning due to this, and then I accidentally stumbled upon compelling evidence she was having an affair (a huge compilation of love emails between her and her lover that she had left on our shared dropbox account). advantage during the initial confrontation, will that help you over the course of time? This is bigger than us both. Not yours. If she is spreading her legs and orifices wide for him to fine tune her plumbing on a daily basis, so be it. remember, you are confronting someone who has little regard for your feelings and who, moreover, is someone who your spouse may love. My lover's wife ended the conversation by telling me how much she hated me and couldn't think of another person in the whole world that she despised more than me. E. There are better women out there. I will probably always love her. Maybe there'll be a duel! I dont feel like a chump (well maybe I did momentarily) No, I am someone who acted on the prompting of the Holy Spirit, I can hold my head high and know that I acted with strength and dignity, keeping my burden light. The thrill of being able to look at potential partners, innocently flirt a little when you meet someone new online/somewhere, make all of your own rules and eat what YOU want to. Wow I never thought to think of it like this. There is no room in my heart for hate. Or is such a confrontation likely to scare the other person away? Next, you must contact a good PI (Private Investigator/detective). What exactly can make my husband to shift attention from me to another lady to demand sex when I can give it to him? You do not need that. Plus, my husband is a photographer and I have his photos of her too. and go bang other women! At this point she clearly has no respect for you whatsoever. But a ship is not built to last, it it built to endure. They may be crazy Safety first. When you have a PI on your corner, he will ask you to stop shadowing her or tinkering with her email etc. I promise. The great part about this is, youre already moving through all the steps. I wouldn't wish this misery on anyone. It is scary, but it is so worth it. She was still in denial even though she knew. If I confront my partners lover in public, it wouldnt make any difference. From her end, while she quietens down for a few months, the fire to cheat and feel the same sexual thrill with another guy, will begin flickering harder once again, and before you realize it she will be back on her knees taking hot dogs for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and in between meals as well. Don't make me explain it to you. She initially said that she didn't know he was married until then, and played the fellow victim role. Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. At some point my FIL will pass away and I'm sure the AP will show up at the funeral. They don't care that my husband's affair with her caused him to lose his 17-year ministry career or that it did permanent damage to our marriage and his relationships with our girls. So while you may have an And in the other case, narcissistic people don't think the rules apply to them -- and that doesn't stop at poaching your spouse. I feel that it is great that you do the same . But I would never answer the call. Really man, get some self-respect. Many of them come specialized in the art of 'spousal cheating', and would be more than happy to render their services and time to you, for a fee which is reasonable. And your life. Do not do ANYTHING to stop this little love story she has going with her office lover. I do understand what is being said here, because not all situations are going to turn out like mine did. Sofor really the first time in 38 years I am very serious in considering getting a divorce. Should I tell the affair partner's spouse? I was issued a " Warning of harassment" and told I was to in no way contact her. Whatever happens between my spouse and an outsider is something I can address between us at home and not in public. What if I dont know him? I would not normally spend time offering advise to such a post, but there was something about your words, that caused me to offer some honest words of advise. NEVER. She vowed to leave him and told me she had divorce papers ready to go. It's an ego boost to your cheater. September 9, 2011 6.16am. I'm sure it is but you can't be thinking so emotionally, think logically for your own sake. There are no kids and assets are minimal so that is not my concern. When she does, I just make myself a fake profile using the name of fictional characters, and post all the details of her affair, including photos and videos she sent on her FB page, buried in comments on old posts. Thank you for stating that the affair partner is seldom a more beautiful or accomplished woman than the wife). My husband called it off and she continued to pursue him. *Embrace the Initial Pros: Sad because one side of the bed is empty? You're nuts. He was shaking for our entire conversation and got the message. Do NOT confront your sweet wife with anything. This girl is delusional. You can still be the role model your son deserves, you can still be the person you have always been and more. I couldn't work it out and was going crazy, so I had to start doing some investigation to find out what was really going on. Whatever you have decided by then (divorce, reconciliation etc) would be execute per your wishes and she would very well like to go in for an (uncontested) mutual amicable divorce (on your terms). My head was kind of spinning due to this, and then I accidentally Anyhoo, am I hurt of course! Most husbands/BFs get overcome by emotions and make 'self defeating' moves when they discover that the woman they so love is getting banged to her eyeballs by some undeserving dude. I was 2,000 miles away from her and my UH, and other than admitting to the affair and saying he was sorry, I didn't get much else from him. I would not want something like that to happen. The best solution is to talk to my husband. I owe to my family and children though and will stand in my head to make things work. The world is still spinning. You are wondering if she will get banged by that dude today or not. Dude, your "world" has already collapsed. Ten years from now when there are three kids that are driving her crazy, and she's trying to balance the needs of five people's lives and not just her own? If she wants to end the relationship why doesn't she tell me? Walking away from this lets you maintain your dignity and self respect. Don't participate in this humiliating game. Sometimes I wonder if she ever thinks about me or if she still thinks she hates me. As your wife she shouldn't be f*cking other dudes should she? I wanted him to know that he took advantage of a severely depressed woman who for many years was under the care of a psychiatrist for this diagnosis. Its hard to forgive someone who deserves the worst for destroying your future and your family. Viewing 10 posts - 1 through 10 (of 10 total), This topic has 9 replies, 7 voices, and was last updated. After all is said and done, some of you will still feel an overwhelming need to confront the affair partner. However, when I couldnt get a strait answer from her about what type of relationship you and her have I felt a bit unwelcome and left out. In such a situation, the other person may be able to gain the upper hand by saying things which make you look foolish or not in control I also told Over the past year, I've begun to hear rumors at the workplace of "Renee" cheating on me with another man, but there are no outright signs at home. WebBefore seeking to confront your spouses lover, consider the possibility that such a meeting may actually do more harm than good. My errand accomplished nothing. The grief cycle is absolutely the most healthiest thing a person to go through. I believe my spouse and I can talk things over and settle our differences without involving a third party. You want to A lying, deceitful, manipulator. People never cease to amaze me, both the evil and the naive. Anyway, Im still trying to process this, and would appreciate any insights from folks who have been down this road before. It only shows he does not respect me. Without her in it. A dreaded sinking feeling comes over you, is this the end? It'll help the two of you communicate in effective ways and find answers as to why the affair happened - in a much healthier way than contacting the affair partner. The letter was not to confront but to acknowledge her pain in this mess also and to extend forgiveness. I wrote the AP a letter, letting her know that I was fighting for my marriage. Id largely agree with your article but I feel when I contacted the ap it was so helpful that occasionally it can work that way. Get a lawyer and get this over with and move on. I would like to communicate with you further! My wife and I are doing very well but still see him all over town daily . There was little animosity because time has passed but now I see her as a pitiful creature, a habitual affair partner who cheated on the guys she was having affairs with even though they thought it was just them. So I suppose I have quite a bit of power right now to screw up her life, and this fact probably dawned on her in the day or so after I confronted her, and I think she sees reconciliation as the path of least resistance to avoiding these dangers. Told her to call him and tell him HER HUSBAND wants to talk to him. Hi after almost 3 years the AP contacted me. The only thing I will do is to walk out of the marriage. If she INSISTS on evidence, ask her why she needs to see the evidence. If you need more information about the affair(s), hire a private investigator or become a computer snoop. She's getting a high off two men fighting for her. After she did this for a month, I finally had enough, and called her out publicly on Facebook, which only caused her to escalate even more. It was sweet. No. Dont ever contact the ow . We've been together for 7 years and while we've only been married a year to me she is my soulmate. Also definately dont tell how you know - it's none of her business and it's imaterial anyway plus it just gives her a chance to turn things on you. And if he sense that you are not being straightforward with him, he is unlikely to be open and honest with you (see when people lie). At this point, dont focus on rekindling the relationship. Consider the source. I divorced him and he married her. If the other person is in the dark about the nature of your relationship with your spouse, it may help to confront him or herthus creating awareness that you are going to put up a fight and that you love your The reason her job is a concern is because her lover is her boss where she works, an obvious no-no. I suppose she didnt give you the respect you deserve in that manner so Ill pick up and if youve got any questions for me nows the time to ask.". If you have no one and just want to vent, please send me a message and I will listen to all you want to say on skype. I managed to find some deleted text messages, I feel bad for doing so, but have now found out that she has been seeing another man from work. Acceptance is the best thing that will ever happen to you. I choose not to indulge or become a part of the negativity in the world. Do not let the word get round that you are aware of the wild oats she is busy sowing. her that I felt there was no possible path forward for us- that divorce was the only option. Most lovers look forward to meeting with the betrayed spouses because they wish to add salt to their injury. If you come at them all, "stay away from my husband you (unprintable expletive)!" I wish you all strength. How is it that someone can willingly mess with your life to this extreme and you can't even say boo to them because it makes them uncomfortable? What did I learn that I could trust? The best person to face if such a situation arises is my husband. The storm has passed, the boat is in tatters but still serviceable, its time to make port and see what can be done. I did exactly that.ignored the AP. Apparently she has booked an appointment to see a councillor. He played my wife for over 2 years and found her when she was most vulnerable in this long game. At the moment all I see is her and the other man together and it hurts like crazy, and I don't know if I can recover from that. You need to divorce her right now. I need advice on how to handle this with my wife - and if you help me I will post links to videos of her with face blurred I can honestly say now that i have forgiven my husband, and that feels so good. Your identity and who you are has changed. And she wanted details. Your bed now. Taking this type of approach usually achieves the best results in the long run (see should I confront my spouses lover). When we met I did not confront him but rather simply asked him how it started & what it meant to him & so on. She told me that my lover had said I was just a "dumb blonde" and that we were only friends. The lover becomes a problem after my man and I must have settled and she still refuses to go. If you know the other person, you may feel compelled to tell them that you know about the relationship and that their dirty little secret is out. Look, to exist in an affair for any length of time, you have to be a few sandwiches shy of picnic. You have to know who you are and what you can handle. It's called buyers remorse. You deserve better. That's for myself. Please seek professional care if you believe you may have a condition. Making a habit of going out of the house regularly will help tremendously with depression. Really? Maybe I am a wimp, I'm here for advice and I can't help the way I feel. Have your lawyer write a no contact letter. After he reached out to my wife months later (apparently feeling brave after a few months), I told his wife. He was suspicious of her acts but never in his wildest of dreams he had thought that situation could be this much worse. Get out now and you should retain most of your assets. Your funeral. I found out and he has been transparent with everything. She was dumped by him when their 4.5 year double life came out by way of a wrongly sent text to me from my partner. Space Is Limited! Never. Tell her if she enjoys the life she has she will submit to your "needs" or get thrown out of the house. Until I did. Two days later because I was in the same town as she was I text her and asked if she would be willing to meet for coffee. The are so arrogant when they had the affair. It's all good. I need to talk to my husband and sort out issues with him. If you are going through it, I wish you faith, hope, and persistence. A: What you experience is a natural emotion of jealousy and insecurity. He claims they are not. If I confront her lover and we ended up fighting and I am badly injured, I am the one that will be ashamed. I cannot confront her in public. Like a Japanese Tsunami on steroids when she least expects it. You haven't mentioned your age. I wound out about the affair about one month after he died. You are spirally completely out of control here. Maybe you're still waiting to come up with the perfect withering remark to deliver along with your poisoned umbrella tip. Love, romance, and other sweet unicorns and Each person has to make their own decisions, but I hope you don't cause yourself any more pain. While you continue to play the dumb, trusting, naive husband. Does it make a difference? Only a mad manll do that- Jonathan Akpan. If she doesnt stop she should consider the marriage over. Every now and then she reaches out to my husband, every time it really upsets me. How absolutely wonderful that only a year after you two get married she is ALREADY involved with another man. As a man, I will have to deal with my wife by talking to her. She was sick Anger for her betrayal, lies, and coverup. And perhaps the most surprising feeling of all- elation, mixed with relief. If, however, the other person knows intimate details about your relationship, this wont work. And again, what do you hope to accomplish by calling your wifes lover? He is committed, I thank God he had awakening from this terrible mistake. I love her so much and am scared to confront her about it for fear of what may happen, I suppose I'm hoping if I ignore it she will get over it and everything will go back to normal, but I know deep down that this is naive and weak. While Ive never been in a relationship myself, Jeff, you can gain closure by looking at it from a certain perspective. 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